TJ Bartel has been working in the fields of conscious sexuality and self-discovery for many years, and has since written the book, "How to Be a Great Lover Overnight" to help people in relationships.
Identifying a Toxic Relationship
No matter how experienced one may be in the world of relationships and dating, there is no guarantee that our experience will keep us from finding ourselves in a toxic relationship. What’s important to know is how to identify these types of relationships and how to either fix them or abandon them entirely.
How Dating Apps May be Detrimental to Our Mental Health
The onset of social media has given millions of people around the world the ability to meet one another instantly and effortlessly without physically being there. This is a major convenience as it increases the amount of dating options one may have. However, there are also disadvantages to dating online. As convenient as dating apps may be, they also expose people to a host of dangers they might not have to deal with in traditional dating
Self-Sabotage and How to Avoid It
No one likes to admit to dealing with self-sabotage, but it’s something that most people struggle with at some point of their lives. For me it was over-working and not making sure that I cared for myself at least as well as how I cared for my clients and family members. By not tending to my physical and emotional needs as well as I should have, I wasn’t always able to show up as powerfully as I would have liked. Maybe it’s something similar for you.
Getting Over Relationship Anxiety
Starting a new relationship can be both exhilarating and scary. In fact, the newness of a relationship can, quite normally, incite anxiety for some people, which is manageable if only rooted in fear. This is often referred to as relationship anxiety. The good news is that you can work to resolve this kind of anxiety.
What are the Seven Depths of Touch?
Touch is an important tool used to connect with your partner. Touches can be healing and evoke a number of feelings and sensations. When done with another person, touch should always be done very intentionally. In the Ancient Tantra teachings, there are seven different depths and speeds associated with touch.
Three Challenges Men and Women Face Part One: A Lack of Understanding
It’s no secret that men and women are very different. These differences can lead to challenges in a relationship, as men and women often fail to realize just how different they are. This lack of understanding of how the other operates is one of the biggest challenges faced in a relationship.
How to Master the Art of Kissing
To be a great lover, you first have to be a great kisser. Kissing is the first introduction your partner has to you and your biochemical imprint. If the first kiss isn’t powerful, she likely won’t want to progress your physical relationship any farther. When you kiss a woman, she will make neuro-associations between you and the way the kiss made her feel. You want your kiss to make your partner feel sexy and sensual. Your kiss should have both a purpose and a reason.
The Power of Visualization
Visualization is a powerful tool that can be used to help you obtain any goal you can imagine. Before you can do anything with great success, you must first picture yourself engaging with and succeeding in the task. Because energy follows thought, the areas where we put our attention grow, therefore, putting our attention towards the things we want means those areas will flourish.
How to Undo your Energetic Conditioning
Ever wonder why you keep doing the same behaviors that keep you stuck in a bad relationship, an unfulfilling job, or an unhealthy lifestyle? Maybe you have tried to change your life in the past only to find you are facing the same problems all over again a few months or years on. There’s a good reason people continually find themselves tripping up over the same scenarios in life: we have formed unconscious habits around how we use and direct our attention.
As children, we learn a lot from the...
How to Be Present in the Moment
Many of us are so used to living in the past or the future that we have no awareness of what being in the present means. Recent research has shown that we are not as conscious as we think we are. In fact, we are unconscious most of the time as we move about our day, with only specific decisions making their way into our consciousness. Because of this, we struggle to live in the present because our mind swings from thought to thought, only briefly settling somewhere that captures our truest fo...
Bridging the Gap Between Men and Women: What it Means and How to Do It PART 1: Communication
It’s no secret that men and women have very different styles of communication. The differences in these styles can seem small, but if not handled carefully, communication breakdowns and misunderstandings can be the result, leading to a whole host of other issues.
Women often express the desire for their male partners to be more emotionally available and communicative while men want their female partners to use fewer words and argue less. Instead of trying to change your partner, both men and ...
Things All Men Need in a Solid Relationship
For some men, opening up about their needs in a relationship is difficult. Social conditioning has made it so many men feel uncomfortable with the idea of being vulnerable in any sense, but especially with women. As a result, many women struggle to understand what it is her partner needs if he can’t communicate what his needs are. Here are three things necessary for men to have a healthy relationship and how to discuss these needs with their partner.
For men, respect often codes as lo...